Losing your partner is the hardest thing.
You keep reliving all the moments from when you were together. Now, the loneliness is the worst part. I go to work every day, but when I get into my car for the drive home, I break down and cry because I know I am going to an empty house. I have cried every day – the tears start to flow and I do everything I can to slowly put them back in. Now, with the help I am receiving from Heart House Hospice, I am learning to be at peace with the inevitability and unpredictability of life – learning to be at peace with my tears.
When we found out that John had bladder cancer and as things got worse, we were referred to Heart House Hospice by our Palliative Care Doctor. I got in touch with Heart House Hospice in Spring of 2019. They sent Anna, one of the counsellors, to talk to us. She was wonderful. She spoke to both John and me. She wanted to know how we were feeling, and if we had any concerns. Heart House Hospice also provided a volunteer who came to our house and sat with John once a week. He really enjoyed her visit and it gave me a break to either go out and do some shopping or just to take a nap.
I knew I couldn’t handle the grief by myself; I needed help. Luckily, I met Peggy, a bereavement counsellor at Heart House Hospice and started 1-on-1 counselling and it helped. I was able to tell her how I was feeling without being judged. Peggy told me about a Bereavement Circle that was starting and I joined hoping to meet people going through the same things as me. I now look forward to these sessions every week. I don’t cry as much anymore, and I try not to dwell on the past. Instead I try to remember John now for the good times, the fun times, and his laughter.
The people at Heart House Hospice are amazing. Even during these unpredictable times, they still are continuing to support the Brampton and Mississauga communities through Covid-19. They are caring and understand what you are going through. Their programs from counselling to Spa Days have been a great help for me now that my husband has passed away. Heart House is always thinking of ways to help us connect more easily. They recently added a Hospice Palliative Care Helpline: 905-667-1865 to help everyone grieving or searching for resources for family and friends that need support right now. I feel everyone should support Heart House Hospice; it’s a different level of caring than what is provided in a hospital and they are continuing to care for us even during Corvid–19. They need our support now more than ever.
P.S. As I said before, the people at Heart House Hospice are amazing. Even during these unpredictable times. Your gift now will help them continue to work for our community. Donate here.
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